Sexless Marriage or Relationship?

Sexless Marriage or Relationship?

Do you believe there could be such a thing? I personally believe this is a contradiction in terms.

I think there is a possibility of a sexless relationship, however, I think the actually of it being in a successful relationship is few and far between.

While couples can happily go for periods of time without sex, in my opinion, sex within a relationship represents the health of the that relationship. Couples that frequently engage in sex, are usually more appreciative of each other, and are committed to maintaining the dating element.

Even as couples grow mature together, couples that are still deeply in love are still frisky and affectionate, and sometimes still sexually active with each other.

So, while sex is not everything in a relationship, it can definitely symbolize the health of a relationship.

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Would you take a risk of dating one of your friends and ruining your friendship?

Relationships are best when they begin as friendships. You know each other better than if you were to randomly meet and start dating. You don't have the pressure of the first date, and you're more respectful of each other. You just have to be sure to maintain the friendship throughout the relationship. If it doesn't work out, as long as you've both been considerate of each other, you can remain friends.

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I need to spice up my sex life!

I need to spice up my sex life!

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 2 years and we have had some problems in the relationship with communication, and other things that couples usually go through from time to time. He says our sex life is boring. That our sex is OKAY, but getting boring, and that he wants me to try to be like a porn star (which personally offends me even though I know better.)

I've worn lingerie but he just takes it off and trys to have sex. I'm too shy to try stripping, but should I just do it anyway? We are sexual everyday. He likes me to go down on him everyday, or touch him and play with him everyday, which I dont mind. We also walk around naked all the time. Is this taking away from our sex life? We've used toys but he doesn't seem interested that much in them anymore. And porn used to be a regular thing, but now its on occasion. We've had a three some, but don't suggest that because I wont be allowing it again. It just didn't sit well with me emotionally.

He basically likes one position and always trys to end up in that one position, even though I tell him to switch it up He doesn't. And I tell him to try more areas. He sticks to the bed. What should I do? He says he knows this and will try but he never does. He says I don't seem like I'm having sex for love, but to just go through the motions. I feel the same, but of him. I try to kiss him, make noises and tell him how I feel. But, he makes me shush because everyone can hear everything in our apartment complex.

It doesn't seem like my efforts go anywhere. I know I must be boring in bed and I'm not all too experienced. Any suggestions? I've tried everything I can think of. We love each other very much and are faithful to one another. We have stresses, but we're trying to work them out and I really want to regain our sex life. Please help!

It sounds like you're putting in the effort to spice things up. You don't sound boring in bed in the least bit! You're a regular sex vixen (and I mean that as a complement.) He's the dud. First, if you're not comfortable stripping for him, then don't do it. Don't do anything you're not ready to do.

Second of all, you're doing enough to bring some life back into the sex. He now needs to make an effort, and telling you to be like a porn star doesn't count. Ask him what he would like, since your efforts aren't working for him. Complaining without offering any suggestions doesn't cut it. Then tell him you need him to take some initiative instead of having to do all of the work yourself. Relationships are give and take, even in (or if you're lucky, out of) the bed.

Your sex life is too thought out. It lacks spontaneity, and passion. But since you two are also having problems outside of sex, could it be that your stale sex life is a reflection of your other problems? Its possible that if you solve your other problems first, the sex may fall into place.

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How do I get a man to divorce his wife and be with me?

How do I get a man to divorce his wife and be with me?
He's only staying with her for the kids which doesn't make much sense to me.

Did it ever occur to you the pain you might cause the wife, or his kids? Or the fact that she'd now have to raise their kids alone? Did it ever occur to you that if you had this man to yourself, he might cheat on you too? Probably not.

These situations always end up the same. You can't make anyone do anything that they don't want to do. If he wanted to leave his wife, believe me, he would leave. He's using his kids as an excuse to you, while stringing you along. He's having his cake, and eating it, and you're feeding it to him darling. And, think about it, the last thing you would want is for him to leave his wife for you, then later find out that he's now cheating on you with someone else. Walk away.

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I would be happy to at least get a text message.

I found this question in the comment section and made it a post since I'm sure a lot of people might have the same question:

I would be happy to at least get a text message. Why do Taiwanese men disappear when they want to end a relationship?

My ex and I dated for a while. We promised before to talk things out even though we decided to end the relationship...but after this argument, he just disappeared. We were having quite a few fights before, but we've always talked things out. We are adults (in our 30's). What gives the coward this immature approach of ending something? Unless he's been cheating on me that I was not aware of.......or unless something happened to him? That is just plain rude. Very confused!

I'm sorry to break it to you, but it's not a Taiwanese men "thing" to leave as a way of ending a relationship. Several men do it. Men and women think very differently. When a woman initiates a breakup, she explains why she wants to break up, what went wrong, what he/she could have done, etc. The list could go on.

Men on the other hand, just nip it in the bud leaving us gals wanting to know why. They don't see the need in explaining everything. And in some cowardly cases, their nipping it in the bud is just disappearing without any reason whatsoever. They do this to "avoid hurting the other person," or so that they don't have to be around to see the other person's pain. Focus on what you can do about the situation. You can deal with the pain and/or anger, and move on. Prepare yourself for a happier/healthier relationship.

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Would you get married to someone who wasn't 100% sure he or she could be faithful to you?

Would you get married to someone who wasn't 100% sure he or she could be faithful to you? Would you ever marry someone who had the tendency to cheat when an opportunity presented itself (such as having a one night stand) because they lacked self-control?

If you want an open relationship with this person, in which you both can sleep with other people, then by all means get married. Otherwise, why would you even consider being with someone you know won't be faithful? Don't set yourself up for heartbreak.

My husband and I have opposite work shifts because of our daughter. How do we keep the sex life going good?

My husband and I have opposite work shifts because of our daughter. How do we keep the sex life going good? By the time we see each other, its either too early or too late. We try to make time but by the time it comes down to it, one of us is just not in the mood. Please tell me good ways to keep things going good.

Oh dear. You two need to remember to date...each other. Just because you're married and have obligations doesn't mean you should stop dating each other. You both have to take the initiative. Call a babysitter and set an enticing scene at home. Role play, foreplay, use props, use food, use costumes, do anything...Be creative and keep the sex life ALIVE and well.

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I worry I am too boring...?

I worry I am too boring...?

I have always had a bit of a complex that people don't like me and/or find me boring. I think I'm a nice person although I can be a little on the quiet side around new people. The other week, my partner got drunk & told me that people we knew thought I was boring and only humoured me because I was "something to look at."

I have since, pretty much, stopped talking to our 'friends' because of this. When we are in a social situation now, I feel like such an outcast that I end up drinking wine to make myself feel better and to hopefully not come across as so boring, as (hopefully) a tipsy me is less boring as a sober me. This means I end up drinking most nights, which obviously isn't healthy and I'm not really very happy about. I have no friends or close family to talk to. Any advice? Thanks.

Your opinion of yourself is the most important. There's nothing wrong with being shy or quiet around new people. Although, it seems like you're a bit insecure as well.

I suggest you build your own social circle, and not because some of the people you know think you're boring. You mentioned that you have no friends, which means you're probably only hanging out with your partner's friends. That's fine from time to time, but you need your own social circle. Building your social circle would also allow you to discover more about yourself, while allowing you to meet people with similar interests.

Think of something you'd like to do, or an interest that you have and develop it. It could be joining a book club, drinking club (just kidding) or a women's social group, as long as it's something you're interested in and you go without your partner and his friends. It's okay to go alone. Remember, you'll be making plenty of new friends in these groups. There's an online site that has tons of cool groups listed based upon different interests at http://www.meetup.com/.
And as far as the drinking, well you already know what I think. But never drink to get people to like you. You're fabulous. They just don't know it yet.

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How can he lie to me when it comes to using protection?

How can he lie to me when it comes to using protection?

I'm not on the pill and we haven't done any STD test yet, (although he told me he is 100% clean, we are exclusive for 2 months). So when we have sex, I always ask him to use condoms. He says he hates condoms. He assured me that he is very clean(tested after last partner) and would not *** inside me. I said thats not enough as I'm not going to take any risk on this. Once he got up and went to another room to get the condom. When he came back he said he had it on. It was dark and I couldn't see, but I knew he didn't have a condom on. I said no you don't and touched him, and there was nothing. He didn't say anything. Then he had to put the condom on and we continued. But I was thinking "How can he lie to me about that if he really cares about me." Now I even wonder if he is a decent guy. What do you think?

Do not walk away from this guy. RUN! First things first. Even if a guy doesn't c*m inside you, you can still get pregnant if you're not on birth control! Don't allow yourself to be in the position of getting pregnant, especially with a guy like this. It would be your problem, and he'd be no where around.

Now with that all settled, I can move into your specific situation. Good going by protecting yourself. This guy is a creep. The next time he says he hates condoms, ask him if he loves STD's, or HIV, or babies. The fact that he would stoop as low as to pretend to put on a condom is beyond belief. You have a right to protect yourself. Don't ever let anyone take that away from you. He is not a decent guy, and he doesn't care about you. Move on. You will find someone better. For future reference, always have your own condoms.

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If you caught your husband with an account on adult internet hook up account what would you do?

If you caught your husband with an account on adult internet hook up account what would you do?

I found an email alerting my husband of a new message from someone at a dating service/hook up site, so I went to it and he left the user sign in and password as remember me, so I logged in. I read inbox messages and etc, and the main thing is that his profile said "blah, blah, blah, I need a good f*ck." Needless to say I am/was devastated, when I confronted him he said that he created the account so that I would find it and know how it feels to be cheated on. (I cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship b-4 marriage, ever 4 years ago.) No I don't believe him, and even if he "didn't" cheat, he had/has the intention of cheating.... Lost and Hurt, please help!!! I'm also ready to pop pregnant with our child.

Wow. I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through.

I personally think he was lying about "wanting you to know what it feels like to be cheated on." A person is likely to say almost anything to keep their tracks covered when busted in the act of cheating. Although you have no proof that he physically cheated on you, he definitely stepped outside the boundaries of your relationship.Let's say he was telling the truth. He can't use your previous indiscretion to his benefit. When you're in a relationship and you choose to forgive someone, you have to let that sh&t go. If you can't, then you say so upfront, not 4 plus years later with a baby on the way. He DOES not get to use that to excuse his behavior.

I also think that his reaction was extremely harsh, and insensitive since you two are having a baby together soon. If he's this way now, don't expect him to be better when the baby is born. This is a situation that you'll have to see yourself through. Figure out how you feel knowing this. Can you forgive him? Can you trust him? Do you feel that he still loves you? Do you think he'll be there for your family? Take some time to think about this and decide what your next step will be. Either way, be prepared to stick it out whether you stay in your marriage, or try to fly without him. Best of luck to you, and congratulations on the baby.

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What can I do to get my money back?

I sent my girlfriend in the Philippines that I meet on craiglist $10,000 to help her now she don't talk to me. What can I do to get my money back?

Well, you can find some way to try to get her to communicate with you, be it by telephone, email or a Craig's List posting. However, this doesn't mean she'll give you your money back. And because she's in another country, you can't use the law to get it back. Let's face it, you've been robbed!!!

For future reference, never date anyone in another country that you met on Craig's List. And if you do, NEVER send them money. And for my own personal knowledge, have you two ever met face to face?

Sorry I couldn't help.

Here's a little video regarding services and such posted on Craig's List. It's a little off the subject, but I found it hard to resist.

Very complicated relationship situation.

Very complicated relationship situation.

Ok, its a little embarrassing to be talking about this especially on the net , but I honestly am lost. Her name is Lola. We've been best friends for 5 years, one and a half of those years we dated. Lost our virginity to each other ... and so on. We broke up about 1 year ago. And we remain good friends. While we were broken up I tried the typical guy thing to do to try and get over her.. I slept around. Immature.. I know. I have been all over the world working, I've met alot of women, I find myself to be a pretty attractive guy. But none compares to the kind of intensity I've shared with this woman. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. I've never been some comfortable with a woman in my life. I would give anything to get her back. But I don't want to ruin the friendship we have, I would rather her be in my life as a friend than not at all. She is dating some guy who's been lying to her all the time. At this point I just want her to be happy. I would love to not love her anymore, but I've tried.. and I cant. She is still the one I think about all the time. Any advice would be appreciated. Should i just not talk to her anymore , or tell her how I feel about her?

First of all, don't worry about expressing your feelings on the internet. With the modern era of online dating and internet based social groups, you're just keeping up with the times.

I don't think removing her from your life is an option for you. You love her and respect the friendship that you have with her, so I'm sure you would regret not having her in your life. However, I think telling her how you feel while she's seeing someone else might be a bad move. If her boyfriend is constantly lying to her, it won't last.

Continue being friends with her, and explain to her how you feel when she's out of her relationship. Chances are she might feel the same way. If not, at least you can live without the regret of never telling her, and will still have a solid friendship.

I hope I've helped.