How can he lie to me when it comes to using protection?

How can he lie to me when it comes to using protection?

I'm not on the pill and we haven't done any STD test yet, (although he told me he is 100% clean, we are exclusive for 2 months). So when we have sex, I always ask him to use condoms. He says he hates condoms. He assured me that he is very clean(tested after last partner) and would not *** inside me. I said thats not enough as I'm not going to take any risk on this. Once he got up and went to another room to get the condom. When he came back he said he had it on. It was dark and I couldn't see, but I knew he didn't have a condom on. I said no you don't and touched him, and there was nothing. He didn't say anything. Then he had to put the condom on and we continued. But I was thinking "How can he lie to me about that if he really cares about me." Now I even wonder if he is a decent guy. What do you think?

Do not walk away from this guy. RUN! First things first. Even if a guy doesn't c*m inside you, you can still get pregnant if you're not on birth control! Don't allow yourself to be in the position of getting pregnant, especially with a guy like this. It would be your problem, and he'd be no where around.

Now with that all settled, I can move into your specific situation. Good going by protecting yourself. This guy is a creep. The next time he says he hates condoms, ask him if he loves STD's, or HIV, or babies. The fact that he would stoop as low as to pretend to put on a condom is beyond belief. You have a right to protect yourself. Don't ever let anyone take that away from you. He is not a decent guy, and he doesn't care about you. Move on. You will find someone better. For future reference, always have your own condoms.

I hope I've helped.

If you caught your husband with an account on adult internet hook up account what would you do?

If you caught your husband with an account on adult internet hook up account what would you do?

I found an email alerting my husband of a new message from someone at a dating service/hook up site, so I went to it and he left the user sign in and password as remember me, so I logged in. I read inbox messages and etc, and the main thing is that his profile said "blah, blah, blah, I need a good f*ck." Needless to say I am/was devastated, when I confronted him he said that he created the account so that I would find it and know how it feels to be cheated on. (I cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship b-4 marriage, ever 4 years ago.) No I don't believe him, and even if he "didn't" cheat, he had/has the intention of cheating.... Lost and Hurt, please help!!! I'm also ready to pop pregnant with our child.

Wow. I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through.

I personally think he was lying about "wanting you to know what it feels like to be cheated on." A person is likely to say almost anything to keep their tracks covered when busted in the act of cheating. Although you have no proof that he physically cheated on you, he definitely stepped outside the boundaries of your relationship.Let's say he was telling the truth. He can't use your previous indiscretion to his benefit. When you're in a relationship and you choose to forgive someone, you have to let that sh&t go. If you can't, then you say so upfront, not 4 plus years later with a baby on the way. He DOES not get to use that to excuse his behavior.

I also think that his reaction was extremely harsh, and insensitive since you two are having a baby together soon. If he's this way now, don't expect him to be better when the baby is born. This is a situation that you'll have to see yourself through. Figure out how you feel knowing this. Can you forgive him? Can you trust him? Do you feel that he still loves you? Do you think he'll be there for your family? Take some time to think about this and decide what your next step will be. Either way, be prepared to stick it out whether you stay in your marriage, or try to fly without him. Best of luck to you, and congratulations on the baby.

I hope I've helped.