Hey readers! I've had several shows back to back leaving little time for me to blog with my dating advice. I'll will have a new post up within the next couple of days. In the mean time, I've attached a video clip below on online dating. Let me know what you think. Do you have an online dating profile? Are you against online dating? And, do you agree with the suggested advice? I can't wait to hear from you!
Showing posts with label romance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label romance. Show all posts
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
My husband and I have opposite work shifts because of our daughter. How do we keep the sex life going good?
My husband and I have opposite work shifts because of our daughter. How do we keep the sex life going good? By the time we see each other, its either too early or too late. We try to make time but by the time it comes down to it, one of us is just not in the mood. Please tell me good ways to keep things going good.
Oh dear. You two need to remember to date...each other. Just because you're married and have obligations doesn't mean you should stop dating each other. You both have to take the initiative. Call a babysitter and set an enticing scene at home. Role play, foreplay, use props, use food, use costumes, do anything...Be creative and keep the sex life ALIVE and well.
I hope I've helped.
Monday, October 13, 2008
How do you meet guys?
How do you meet guys?
Today I was at the grocery store and I noticed a very cute guy. Then I thought, why does it even matter that I see a cute guy at a grocery store because I most likely will never meet him or even know his name. I mean how do you actually meet guys? I meet some when I go out but I really want to mix it up and go for a different type of guy. Any advice?
Well, first you have to get over the idea of rejection. I think fear of rejection is one of the main reasons people don't take charge of situations like these. For example, you didn't meet the guy in the grocery store because neither of you took a step.
So he didn't approach you. You could of approached him by asking his advice on what to make for dinner that night. That would have allowed you to feel him out to see if he seemed interested in you. If so, you could have offered to make dinner for him sometime. So what if you can't cook. There's a great take out place in every neighborhood.
The next time you're at a grocery store, football game, bookstore and any place else, try approaching a hot guy if he doesn't approach you first and just see what happens. Make flirting fun. It should be anyway. Good luck!
I hope I've helped.
Today I was at the grocery store and I noticed a very cute guy. Then I thought, why does it even matter that I see a cute guy at a grocery store because I most likely will never meet him or even know his name. I mean how do you actually meet guys? I meet some when I go out but I really want to mix it up and go for a different type of guy. Any advice?
Well, first you have to get over the idea of rejection. I think fear of rejection is one of the main reasons people don't take charge of situations like these. For example, you didn't meet the guy in the grocery store because neither of you took a step.
So he didn't approach you. You could of approached him by asking his advice on what to make for dinner that night. That would have allowed you to feel him out to see if he seemed interested in you. If so, you could have offered to make dinner for him sometime. So what if you can't cook. There's a great take out place in every neighborhood.
The next time you're at a grocery store, football game, bookstore and any place else, try approaching a hot guy if he doesn't approach you first and just see what happens. Make flirting fun. It should be anyway. Good luck!
I hope I've helped.
Very complicated relationship situation.
Very complicated relationship situation.
Ok, its a little embarrassing to be talking about this especially on the net , but I honestly am lost. Her name is Lola. We've been best friends for 5 years, one and a half of those years we dated. Lost our virginity to each other ... and so on. We broke up about 1 year ago. And we remain good friends. While we were broken up I tried the typical guy thing to do to try and get over her.. I slept around. Immature.. I know. I have been all over the world working, I've met alot of women, I find myself to be a pretty attractive guy. But none compares to the kind of intensity I've shared with this woman. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. I've never been some comfortable with a woman in my life. I would give anything to get her back. But I don't want to ruin the friendship we have, I would rather her be in my life as a friend than not at all. She is dating some guy who's been lying to her all the time. At this point I just want her to be happy. I would love to not love her anymore, but I've tried.. and I cant. She is still the one I think about all the time. Any advice would be appreciated. Should i just not talk to her anymore , or tell her how I feel about her?
First of all, don't worry about expressing your feelings on the internet. With the modern era of online dating and internet based social groups, you're just keeping up with the times.
I don't think removing her from your life is an option for you. You love her and respect the friendship that you have with her, so I'm sure you would regret not having her in your life. However, I think telling her how you feel while she's seeing someone else might be a bad move. If her boyfriend is constantly lying to her, it won't last.
Continue being friends with her, and explain to her how you feel when she's out of her relationship. Chances are she might feel the same way. If not, at least you can live without the regret of never telling her, and will still have a solid friendship.
I hope I've helped.
Ok, its a little embarrassing to be talking about this especially on the net , but I honestly am lost. Her name is Lola. We've been best friends for 5 years, one and a half of those years we dated. Lost our virginity to each other ... and so on. We broke up about 1 year ago. And we remain good friends. While we were broken up I tried the typical guy thing to do to try and get over her.. I slept around. Immature.. I know. I have been all over the world working, I've met alot of women, I find myself to be a pretty attractive guy. But none compares to the kind of intensity I've shared with this woman. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. I've never been some comfortable with a woman in my life. I would give anything to get her back. But I don't want to ruin the friendship we have, I would rather her be in my life as a friend than not at all. She is dating some guy who's been lying to her all the time. At this point I just want her to be happy. I would love to not love her anymore, but I've tried.. and I cant. She is still the one I think about all the time. Any advice would be appreciated. Should i just not talk to her anymore , or tell her how I feel about her?
First of all, don't worry about expressing your feelings on the internet. With the modern era of online dating and internet based social groups, you're just keeping up with the times.
I don't think removing her from your life is an option for you. You love her and respect the friendship that you have with her, so I'm sure you would regret not having her in your life. However, I think telling her how you feel while she's seeing someone else might be a bad move. If her boyfriend is constantly lying to her, it won't last.
Continue being friends with her, and explain to her how you feel when she's out of her relationship. Chances are she might feel the same way. If not, at least you can live without the regret of never telling her, and will still have a solid friendship.
I hope I've helped.
Friday, October 3, 2008
Is Chivalry Dead?
Is Chivalry Dead?
Some say that chivalry died with the women's equal rights movement. I've heard men say that they are confused about what to do most of the time. If they don't open the door for a woman, there's a problem. And if they do open the door, they're at risk for dealing with a feminist shouting, "I don't need you to open my door. I can do it myself." Then they are those men that just don't have a clue in the first place.
In my opinion, chivalry in America is in a coma. It's not quite dead, but very hard to find. When you meet a new guy, find a subtle way of explaining to him that you like gentlemen that open doors, bring flowers and such. If he doesn't get it, move on because chivalry is definitely dead in him. Good luck!
I hope I've helped.
I thought I would add this video to take you into the weekend. I hope you enjoy it!
Thursday, October 2, 2008
How to Give a Hot Massage
Hey guys! In case you didn't know it, it's getting cold outside. Okay, everyone knew it. I'm just now coming out of denial. With colder weather around, many people will be looking for things to do inside. If you have a date, why not offer a massage? Create a relaxing atmosphere of mood music, candles and a little aromatherapy (scented candles, incense and/or oil). Speaking of, make sure you have your massage oil handy as well. And for those that aren't so gifted with the hands, check out the video below. It's a massage lesson just for you. Enjoy and good luck!
I hope I've helped.
I hope I've helped.
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Does he want to commit? Or is he just stalling?
Does he want to commit? Or is he just stalling?
My long term boyfriend and I were discussing the future the other night when I mentioned how I wanted to stay with him forever. His reply was "forever is a long time."I was a little concerned because this seems like it would lead into that he didn't want to commit to me so I pointed out that previously he said he wanted to become engaged soon and now this (and a few other statements) made it seems as though he now longer felt that way.After a few minutes discussion he tells me that it's not a matter of whether or not I am the woman he wants to marry, (Apparently I am despite him showing some doubt) it's the timing. Not the timing of the marriage, however, I'm perfectly fine with waiting a white to marry, but he seems to want to continue to wait to become engaged, even though we have already promised to stay with each other no matter what.So tell me if his theory holds water to you or not: Even if you are with the right person, if you become engaged at the wrong time it can ruin everything.Does this make sense to you?
If you don't mind waiting for marriage, why not wait for the engagement? The engagement period is to prepare for the wedding, in which he's made it clear that he's not ready. I'm sorry to say it, but it seems that you're rushing to get him tied down.
You haven't said anything to make me think he's stalling. Sometimes, a person just isn't ready, and it's not about not wanting to commit. It could be that he has goals that he wants to achieve before marriage. Or, that he wants to be able to provide his wife (in this case it would be you) with a certain type of lifestyle.
Relax, and enjoy the time you spend dating. Once you get married, it'll never be the same. And, give the man a little more time. Good luck!
I hope I've helped.
My long term boyfriend and I were discussing the future the other night when I mentioned how I wanted to stay with him forever. His reply was "forever is a long time."I was a little concerned because this seems like it would lead into that he didn't want to commit to me so I pointed out that previously he said he wanted to become engaged soon and now this (and a few other statements) made it seems as though he now longer felt that way.After a few minutes discussion he tells me that it's not a matter of whether or not I am the woman he wants to marry, (Apparently I am despite him showing some doubt) it's the timing. Not the timing of the marriage, however, I'm perfectly fine with waiting a white to marry, but he seems to want to continue to wait to become engaged, even though we have already promised to stay with each other no matter what.So tell me if his theory holds water to you or not: Even if you are with the right person, if you become engaged at the wrong time it can ruin everything.Does this make sense to you?
If you don't mind waiting for marriage, why not wait for the engagement? The engagement period is to prepare for the wedding, in which he's made it clear that he's not ready. I'm sorry to say it, but it seems that you're rushing to get him tied down.
You haven't said anything to make me think he's stalling. Sometimes, a person just isn't ready, and it's not about not wanting to commit. It could be that he has goals that he wants to achieve before marriage. Or, that he wants to be able to provide his wife (in this case it would be you) with a certain type of lifestyle.
Relax, and enjoy the time you spend dating. Once you get married, it'll never be the same. And, give the man a little more time. Good luck!
I hope I've helped.
I am single and not talking to anyone, loneliness seems to be bringing me down, i don't miss my ex?
I am single and not talking to anyone, loneliness seems to be bringing me down, i don't miss my ex?
Sometimes loneliness can be mistaken with being bored. If you have time to be lonely, then you're not busy living. First, learn how to spend time alone with yourself, without feeling lonely. Then, find a hobby, develop new interests and spend time with your friends and family. Now is the time to learn that second language you've always been interested in, or reading a book that you've never had time to get to. The more active you are living your life, the greater chance you have of meeting someone new, and having more to offer them. Good luck.
I hope I've helped.
Sometimes loneliness can be mistaken with being bored. If you have time to be lonely, then you're not busy living. First, learn how to spend time alone with yourself, without feeling lonely. Then, find a hobby, develop new interests and spend time with your friends and family. Now is the time to learn that second language you've always been interested in, or reading a book that you've never had time to get to. The more active you are living your life, the greater chance you have of meeting someone new, and having more to offer them. Good luck.
I hope I've helped.
Do you think he will still go out with me on a third date?
Do you think he will still go out with me on a third date?
I had a first date with a guy. On our first date, we ended up having a really good make out session. Kissing, cuddling and hugging. We had a second date and I started feeling a little awkward around him compared to our first date. I really like him. Really really do but why was I too shy to hug him or kiss him on our 2nd date? I felt like it went from a romantic first date to a friendly second date. I don't want to make him think that I am not interested in him or that I don't care. I just felt so awkward that I felt that I wasn't really in my right senses. Please help?I felt that when we parted ways on our 2nd date, I wasn't looking at him or I didn't even hug or kiss him at least on the cheek because I was so out of my mind. I can't even remember what exactly happen because I was so nervous.I feel so bad. I sent him a message thanking him for coming to see me and he replied no problem!
This is a tough one. I think it's too early to tell if he'll ask you out on a third date. Wait a couple of days to see what happens.
If you really like him, and don't hear from him in a couple of days, call him and talk to him. Tell him that you were so nervous on the second date, that you feel horrible about it. Then offer a "do-over" by taking him out. Most likely it'll give him an ego boost regarding your feelings for him and he'll think it's cute. Good luck!
I hope I've helped.
I had a first date with a guy. On our first date, we ended up having a really good make out session. Kissing, cuddling and hugging. We had a second date and I started feeling a little awkward around him compared to our first date. I really like him. Really really do but why was I too shy to hug him or kiss him on our 2nd date? I felt like it went from a romantic first date to a friendly second date. I don't want to make him think that I am not interested in him or that I don't care. I just felt so awkward that I felt that I wasn't really in my right senses. Please help?I felt that when we parted ways on our 2nd date, I wasn't looking at him or I didn't even hug or kiss him at least on the cheek because I was so out of my mind. I can't even remember what exactly happen because I was so nervous.I feel so bad. I sent him a message thanking him for coming to see me and he replied no problem!
This is a tough one. I think it's too early to tell if he'll ask you out on a third date. Wait a couple of days to see what happens.
If you really like him, and don't hear from him in a couple of days, call him and talk to him. Tell him that you were so nervous on the second date, that you feel horrible about it. Then offer a "do-over" by taking him out. Most likely it'll give him an ego boost regarding your feelings for him and he'll think it's cute. Good luck!
I hope I've helped.
I want to do something naughty....?
I want to do something naughty....?
I want to do something naughty and I don't know what to do. I don't have a BF or anyone and plus I'm really really horny lol. I just can't shake it off...what should I do?
Buy a toy, or use your hand and be naughty with yourself. Sex stores are open 24 hours a day if you feel like getting out for a spell. If you're alone, with a toy (or hand) I'm sure you can figure it out. Good luck.
I hope I've helped.
I want to do something naughty and I don't know what to do. I don't have a BF or anyone and plus I'm really really horny lol. I just can't shake it off...what should I do?
Buy a toy, or use your hand and be naughty with yourself. Sex stores are open 24 hours a day if you feel like getting out for a spell. If you're alone, with a toy (or hand) I'm sure you can figure it out. Good luck.
I hope I've helped.
Is HE USING ME?
Is HE USING ME?
I am 18, I am dating a 22 year old. We go on dates, I pay for myself, he offers, but accepts my money when I decline, without any hesitation.I found out that he is rich, he never told me this. But if he has this money, why doesn't he just pay for me?!!!
No, he isn't using you. He has his own money, remember. And, he can't pay for you because you always decline. Being passive/aggressive confuses people. Be clear. If you want him to pay, accept his offers.
I hope I've helped.
I am 18, I am dating a 22 year old. We go on dates, I pay for myself, he offers, but accepts my money when I decline, without any hesitation.I found out that he is rich, he never told me this. But if he has this money, why doesn't he just pay for me?!!!
No, he isn't using you. He has his own money, remember. And, he can't pay for you because you always decline. Being passive/aggressive confuses people. Be clear. If you want him to pay, accept his offers.
I hope I've helped.
Should I stop talking to my ex?
Should I stop talking to my ex?
My boyfriend and I broke up almost a month ago now....I was completely depressed and heartbroken, then I started to feel a little better and haven't broke off contact with him. We have been having casual "friend" conversations, but I don't know if its good for me. Im still ssssooo madly inlove with him and thnk that talking to him a few minutes a day is better than not talking to him at all. The highlight of my day is the fact that I might get to see him or talk to him. I have to force myself from texting him saying I miss him, almost every night. My question is, should I completely break off contact with him? I don't want to by any means, but even though I want to get back together with him like you wouldn't beleive, I think talking to him might be making thingsworse...what do you think? Im going out of my mind without him and it hurts :(
Yes, you should definitely stop talking to your ex. Since you still have strong feelings for him, there's no way you'll be able to be "just" friends. You'll constantly be thinking of your relationship. Cut it off completely. It'll be hard initially, but it'll be easier to get over him. Once you've successfully managed to move on, then you can consider establishing a friendship.
I hope I've helped.
My boyfriend and I broke up almost a month ago now....I was completely depressed and heartbroken, then I started to feel a little better and haven't broke off contact with him. We have been having casual "friend" conversations, but I don't know if its good for me. Im still ssssooo madly inlove with him and thnk that talking to him a few minutes a day is better than not talking to him at all. The highlight of my day is the fact that I might get to see him or talk to him. I have to force myself from texting him saying I miss him, almost every night. My question is, should I completely break off contact with him? I don't want to by any means, but even though I want to get back together with him like you wouldn't beleive, I think talking to him might be making thingsworse...what do you think? Im going out of my mind without him and it hurts :(
Yes, you should definitely stop talking to your ex. Since you still have strong feelings for him, there's no way you'll be able to be "just" friends. You'll constantly be thinking of your relationship. Cut it off completely. It'll be hard initially, but it'll be easier to get over him. Once you've successfully managed to move on, then you can consider establishing a friendship.
I hope I've helped.
How to keep a relationship from going stale?
How to keep a relationship from going stale? ?
I have been seeing someone - and it will be our 2 year anniversary in Dec. Things are going fine - but once in a while things feel mundane and the relationship can get bland.What do you do in your relationship to keep the chemistry and the spice in your life?
You both have to take the initiative to keep things spiced up. Plan a surprise date that that is either romantic, sexy or fun and adventurous. Whatever you do, make sure it's something that you haven't done before.
For example, for a fun date, you can go to a game center with video games, put/put golf and golf car racing. Or for a sexy date you can make dinner in your sexist lingerie followed by a little after dinner strip tease show. Do anything as long as its new.
I hope I've helped.
I have been seeing someone - and it will be our 2 year anniversary in Dec. Things are going fine - but once in a while things feel mundane and the relationship can get bland.What do you do in your relationship to keep the chemistry and the spice in your life?
You both have to take the initiative to keep things spiced up. Plan a surprise date that that is either romantic, sexy or fun and adventurous. Whatever you do, make sure it's something that you haven't done before.
For example, for a fun date, you can go to a game center with video games, put/put golf and golf car racing. Or for a sexy date you can make dinner in your sexist lingerie followed by a little after dinner strip tease show. Do anything as long as its new.
I hope I've helped.
Why am I always jealous of my boyfriends' past?
Why am I always jealous of my boyfriends' past?
as in who they dated in the past...ive always been like this. i want to be the center of their world and i know i cant. what do i do
One simple word: Insecurity. Wanting to be the center of a person's world is not healthy. And it usually means that you need their attention to fill a void that you feel within yourself. Find a way to become happy with yourself on the inside and out. Take the time to explore your own personal interests. The key is to become so content with who you are as a person that you're no longer concerned about his ex-girlfriends. You know that they can't hold a candle to you, and he knows it as well. That's why he's with you instead of them.I hope I've helped.
as in who they dated in the past...ive always been like this. i want to be the center of their world and i know i cant. what do i do
One simple word: Insecurity. Wanting to be the center of a person's world is not healthy. And it usually means that you need their attention to fill a void that you feel within yourself. Find a way to become happy with yourself on the inside and out. Take the time to explore your own personal interests. The key is to become so content with who you are as a person that you're no longer concerned about his ex-girlfriends. You know that they can't hold a candle to you, and he knows it as well. That's why he's with you instead of them.I hope I've helped.
Is it weird to be 19 and never have had a boyfriend?
Absolutely not. Many women your age have a tendency to rush into long term relationships, and as a result never have a chance to know what it's like to be single. This is a very important time for you right now, in that you've recently come into the world of adulthood. Enjoy it. Hang out with your friends, travel, focus on your career, etc. When someone comes along that you're interested in and that's worthy of your attention, you'll have more to offer as an individual, and you'll be happy that you didn't rush it.
I hope I helped.
I hope I helped.
Joining the World of Blogging
Dear Cyberworld,
Well, I've gone and done it. I have finally joined the rank of the thousands of bloggers in cyberworld. I said I'd never do it, but then I'm also the one that will try anything (and by that I mean most things, not all things) once. Being the perfectionist that I can be at times, I tried to do a little research on blogging before actually taking the dive.
In short, I've learned that a blogger should: 1. Stay on topic 2. Be informative 3. Stick to a schedule 4. Keep it simple 5. Blog frequently and last, but not least 6. Proof read.
I'm very excited about this new venture, but I want to be honest and up front with my readers. Here's what you can honestly, not expect from me: 1. I probably won't stay on topic. I can be quite random at times. 2. Sometimes I'll be informative, sometimes just random, again. 3. You got it. My schedule is...random. 4. Simple, I can do. 5. See number 3 as a guide to frequency. 6. Umm, I'll definitely try to proof read.
This blog will be geared toward dating, and I'm going to try a different approach. With this blog, I'm encouraging you to ask me dating questions that I will answer in the blog. I look forward to getting to know you new readers and can't wait to hear what you have to say. Please try not to curse at me too much. Although a few might disagree, I do have a heart.
Well, I've gone and done it. I have finally joined the rank of the thousands of bloggers in cyberworld. I said I'd never do it, but then I'm also the one that will try anything (and by that I mean most things, not all things) once. Being the perfectionist that I can be at times, I tried to do a little research on blogging before actually taking the dive.
In short, I've learned that a blogger should: 1. Stay on topic 2. Be informative 3. Stick to a schedule 4. Keep it simple 5. Blog frequently and last, but not least 6. Proof read.
I'm very excited about this new venture, but I want to be honest and up front with my readers. Here's what you can honestly, not expect from me: 1. I probably won't stay on topic. I can be quite random at times. 2. Sometimes I'll be informative, sometimes just random, again. 3. You got it. My schedule is...random. 4. Simple, I can do. 5. See number 3 as a guide to frequency. 6. Umm, I'll definitely try to proof read.
This blog will be geared toward dating, and I'm going to try a different approach. With this blog, I'm encouraging you to ask me dating questions that I will answer in the blog. I look forward to getting to know you new readers and can't wait to hear what you have to say. Please try not to curse at me too much. Although a few might disagree, I do have a heart.
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