Sex With My Brother In Law

Sex With My Brother in Law

This is really embarassing for me. Last week my wife and I were visiting her brother and his wife in California. Our wives went out to visit some old maid aunt and my brother-in-law ad I were watching a football game and dinking a few beers, just normal guy stuff. Our wives called to say they were gonna spend the night since the aunt was sick. When the game was over, we did a few tequila shots and then this movie came on with a sex scene. I don't know how it happened, but we got wasted. We started kissing and before we knew it, we were getting undressed.

To make a long story short, we wound up having gay (unprotected) sex. I woke up the next day in his bed naked with a major hangover. Luckily, we got everything cleaned up before the wives came back. I don't know how this happened or what to do. Believe me or not, I have NEVER had a homosexual desire in my life. If my wife finds out, she will leave me and I love her. I CANNOT tell her, she will never forgive me for having sex with her little brother. To make matters worse, my brother-in-law is threatening to tell her. What can I do? Telling my wife the truth is NOT an option, so please don't even say it.



Well, since you're set on not telling her, you need to talk with your brother in law and find out why he wants to tell her. Try to explain to him, that you made a big mistake, and you love your wife and want you don't want to loose her. Then ask him what he's hoping to achieve by telling her.

Either way, if she finds out, it's not just you she'll be through with. She'll be done with her brother as well. I think you should also be honest with yourself. No matter how wasted you get, you don't sleep with someone that you have absolutely no desire for. It may be hard to face, but you don't want to fool yourself. In the end, all secrets come to the surface. If she finds out now, she'll be upset, but with time she may come around. If she finds out from someone else after some time has passed, she won't be able to get over it. At that point, its beyond betrayal. Its also the fact that you hid it from her. I just think you should consider the outcome of all possible decisions. Good luck. And for future reference, stay away from the Tequila.

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How do I get a man to divorce his wife and be with me?

How do I get a man to divorce his wife and be with me?
He's only staying with her for the kids which doesn't make much sense to me.

Did it ever occur to you the pain you might cause the wife, or his kids? Or the fact that she'd now have to raise their kids alone? Did it ever occur to you that if you had this man to yourself, he might cheat on you too? Probably not.

These situations always end up the same. You can't make anyone do anything that they don't want to do. If he wanted to leave his wife, believe me, he would leave. He's using his kids as an excuse to you, while stringing you along. He's having his cake, and eating it, and you're feeding it to him darling. And, think about it, the last thing you would want is for him to leave his wife for you, then later find out that he's now cheating on you with someone else. Walk away.

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I would be happy to at least get a text message.

I found this question in the comment section and made it a post since I'm sure a lot of people might have the same question:

I would be happy to at least get a text message. Why do Taiwanese men disappear when they want to end a relationship?

My ex and I dated for a while. We promised before to talk things out even though we decided to end the relationship...but after this argument, he just disappeared. We were having quite a few fights before, but we've always talked things out. We are adults (in our 30's). What gives the coward this immature approach of ending something? Unless he's been cheating on me that I was not aware of.......or unless something happened to him? That is just plain rude. Very confused!

I'm sorry to break it to you, but it's not a Taiwanese men "thing" to leave as a way of ending a relationship. Several men do it. Men and women think very differently. When a woman initiates a breakup, she explains why she wants to break up, what went wrong, what he/she could have done, etc. The list could go on.

Men on the other hand, just nip it in the bud leaving us gals wanting to know why. They don't see the need in explaining everything. And in some cowardly cases, their nipping it in the bud is just disappearing without any reason whatsoever. They do this to "avoid hurting the other person," or so that they don't have to be around to see the other person's pain. Focus on what you can do about the situation. You can deal with the pain and/or anger, and move on. Prepare yourself for a happier/healthier relationship.

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Would you get married to someone who wasn't 100% sure he or she could be faithful to you?

Would you get married to someone who wasn't 100% sure he or she could be faithful to you? Would you ever marry someone who had the tendency to cheat when an opportunity presented itself (such as having a one night stand) because they lacked self-control?

If you want an open relationship with this person, in which you both can sleep with other people, then by all means get married. Otherwise, why would you even consider being with someone you know won't be faithful? Don't set yourself up for heartbreak.

If you caught your husband with an account on adult internet hook up account what would you do?

If you caught your husband with an account on adult internet hook up account what would you do?

I found an email alerting my husband of a new message from someone at a dating service/hook up site, so I went to it and he left the user sign in and password as remember me, so I logged in. I read inbox messages and etc, and the main thing is that his profile said "blah, blah, blah, I need a good f*ck." Needless to say I am/was devastated, when I confronted him he said that he created the account so that I would find it and know how it feels to be cheated on. (I cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship b-4 marriage, ever 4 years ago.) No I don't believe him, and even if he "didn't" cheat, he had/has the intention of cheating.... Lost and Hurt, please help!!! I'm also ready to pop pregnant with our child.

Wow. I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through.

I personally think he was lying about "wanting you to know what it feels like to be cheated on." A person is likely to say almost anything to keep their tracks covered when busted in the act of cheating. Although you have no proof that he physically cheated on you, he definitely stepped outside the boundaries of your relationship.Let's say he was telling the truth. He can't use your previous indiscretion to his benefit. When you're in a relationship and you choose to forgive someone, you have to let that sh&t go. If you can't, then you say so upfront, not 4 plus years later with a baby on the way. He DOES not get to use that to excuse his behavior.

I also think that his reaction was extremely harsh, and insensitive since you two are having a baby together soon. If he's this way now, don't expect him to be better when the baby is born. This is a situation that you'll have to see yourself through. Figure out how you feel knowing this. Can you forgive him? Can you trust him? Do you feel that he still loves you? Do you think he'll be there for your family? Take some time to think about this and decide what your next step will be. Either way, be prepared to stick it out whether you stay in your marriage, or try to fly without him. Best of luck to you, and congratulations on the baby.

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