I would be happy to at least get a text message.

I found this question in the comment section and made it a post since I'm sure a lot of people might have the same question:

I would be happy to at least get a text message. Why do Taiwanese men disappear when they want to end a relationship?

My ex and I dated for a while. We promised before to talk things out even though we decided to end the relationship...but after this argument, he just disappeared. We were having quite a few fights before, but we've always talked things out. We are adults (in our 30's). What gives the coward this immature approach of ending something? Unless he's been cheating on me that I was not aware of.......or unless something happened to him? That is just plain rude. Very confused!

I'm sorry to break it to you, but it's not a Taiwanese men "thing" to leave as a way of ending a relationship. Several men do it. Men and women think very differently. When a woman initiates a breakup, she explains why she wants to break up, what went wrong, what he/she could have done, etc. The list could go on.

Men on the other hand, just nip it in the bud leaving us gals wanting to know why. They don't see the need in explaining everything. And in some cowardly cases, their nipping it in the bud is just disappearing without any reason whatsoever. They do this to "avoid hurting the other person," or so that they don't have to be around to see the other person's pain. Focus on what you can do about the situation. You can deal with the pain and/or anger, and move on. Prepare yourself for a happier/healthier relationship.

I hope I've helped!

Online Dating Advice

Hey readers! I've had several shows back to back leaving little time for me to blog with my dating advice. I'll will have a new post up within the next couple of days. In the mean time, I've attached a video clip below on online dating. Let me know what you think. Do you have an online dating profile? Are you against online dating? And, do you agree with the suggested advice? I can't wait to hear from you!

Would you get married to someone who wasn't 100% sure he or she could be faithful to you?

Would you get married to someone who wasn't 100% sure he or she could be faithful to you? Would you ever marry someone who had the tendency to cheat when an opportunity presented itself (such as having a one night stand) because they lacked self-control?

If you want an open relationship with this person, in which you both can sleep with other people, then by all means get married. Otherwise, why would you even consider being with someone you know won't be faithful? Don't set yourself up for heartbreak.

My husband and I have opposite work shifts because of our daughter. How do we keep the sex life going good?

My husband and I have opposite work shifts because of our daughter. How do we keep the sex life going good? By the time we see each other, its either too early or too late. We try to make time but by the time it comes down to it, one of us is just not in the mood. Please tell me good ways to keep things going good.

Oh dear. You two need to remember to date...each other. Just because you're married and have obligations doesn't mean you should stop dating each other. You both have to take the initiative. Call a babysitter and set an enticing scene at home. Role play, foreplay, use props, use food, use costumes, do anything...Be creative and keep the sex life ALIVE and well.

I hope I've helped.

I worry I am too boring...?

I worry I am too boring...?

I have always had a bit of a complex that people don't like me and/or find me boring. I think I'm a nice person although I can be a little on the quiet side around new people. The other week, my partner got drunk & told me that people we knew thought I was boring and only humoured me because I was "something to look at."

I have since, pretty much, stopped talking to our 'friends' because of this. When we are in a social situation now, I feel like such an outcast that I end up drinking wine to make myself feel better and to hopefully not come across as so boring, as (hopefully) a tipsy me is less boring as a sober me. This means I end up drinking most nights, which obviously isn't healthy and I'm not really very happy about. I have no friends or close family to talk to. Any advice? Thanks.

Your opinion of yourself is the most important. There's nothing wrong with being shy or quiet around new people. Although, it seems like you're a bit insecure as well.

I suggest you build your own social circle, and not because some of the people you know think you're boring. You mentioned that you have no friends, which means you're probably only hanging out with your partner's friends. That's fine from time to time, but you need your own social circle. Building your social circle would also allow you to discover more about yourself, while allowing you to meet people with similar interests.

Think of something you'd like to do, or an interest that you have and develop it. It could be joining a book club, drinking club (just kidding) or a women's social group, as long as it's something you're interested in and you go without your partner and his friends. It's okay to go alone. Remember, you'll be making plenty of new friends in these groups. There's an online site that has tons of cool groups listed based upon different interests at http://www.meetup.com/.
And as far as the drinking, well you already know what I think. But never drink to get people to like you. You're fabulous. They just don't know it yet.

I hope I've helped.

How can he lie to me when it comes to using protection?

How can he lie to me when it comes to using protection?

I'm not on the pill and we haven't done any STD test yet, (although he told me he is 100% clean, we are exclusive for 2 months). So when we have sex, I always ask him to use condoms. He says he hates condoms. He assured me that he is very clean(tested after last partner) and would not *** inside me. I said thats not enough as I'm not going to take any risk on this. Once he got up and went to another room to get the condom. When he came back he said he had it on. It was dark and I couldn't see, but I knew he didn't have a condom on. I said no you don't and touched him, and there was nothing. He didn't say anything. Then he had to put the condom on and we continued. But I was thinking "How can he lie to me about that if he really cares about me." Now I even wonder if he is a decent guy. What do you think?

Do not walk away from this guy. RUN! First things first. Even if a guy doesn't c*m inside you, you can still get pregnant if you're not on birth control! Don't allow yourself to be in the position of getting pregnant, especially with a guy like this. It would be your problem, and he'd be no where around.

Now with that all settled, I can move into your specific situation. Good going by protecting yourself. This guy is a creep. The next time he says he hates condoms, ask him if he loves STD's, or HIV, or babies. The fact that he would stoop as low as to pretend to put on a condom is beyond belief. You have a right to protect yourself. Don't ever let anyone take that away from you. He is not a decent guy, and he doesn't care about you. Move on. You will find someone better. For future reference, always have your own condoms.

I hope I've helped.

If you caught your husband with an account on adult internet hook up account what would you do?

If you caught your husband with an account on adult internet hook up account what would you do?

I found an email alerting my husband of a new message from someone at a dating service/hook up site, so I went to it and he left the user sign in and password as remember me, so I logged in. I read inbox messages and etc, and the main thing is that his profile said "blah, blah, blah, I need a good f*ck." Needless to say I am/was devastated, when I confronted him he said that he created the account so that I would find it and know how it feels to be cheated on. (I cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship b-4 marriage, ever 4 years ago.) No I don't believe him, and even if he "didn't" cheat, he had/has the intention of cheating.... Lost and Hurt, please help!!! I'm also ready to pop pregnant with our child.

Wow. I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through.

I personally think he was lying about "wanting you to know what it feels like to be cheated on." A person is likely to say almost anything to keep their tracks covered when busted in the act of cheating. Although you have no proof that he physically cheated on you, he definitely stepped outside the boundaries of your relationship.Let's say he was telling the truth. He can't use your previous indiscretion to his benefit. When you're in a relationship and you choose to forgive someone, you have to let that sh&t go. If you can't, then you say so upfront, not 4 plus years later with a baby on the way. He DOES not get to use that to excuse his behavior.

I also think that his reaction was extremely harsh, and insensitive since you two are having a baby together soon. If he's this way now, don't expect him to be better when the baby is born. This is a situation that you'll have to see yourself through. Figure out how you feel knowing this. Can you forgive him? Can you trust him? Do you feel that he still loves you? Do you think he'll be there for your family? Take some time to think about this and decide what your next step will be. Either way, be prepared to stick it out whether you stay in your marriage, or try to fly without him. Best of luck to you, and congratulations on the baby.

I hope I've helped.

What can I do to get my money back?

I sent my girlfriend in the Philippines that I meet on craiglist $10,000 to help her now she don't talk to me. What can I do to get my money back?

Well, you can find some way to try to get her to communicate with you, be it by telephone, email or a Craig's List posting. However, this doesn't mean she'll give you your money back. And because she's in another country, you can't use the law to get it back. Let's face it, you've been robbed!!!

For future reference, never date anyone in another country that you met on Craig's List. And if you do, NEVER send them money. And for my own personal knowledge, have you two ever met face to face?

Sorry I couldn't help.

Here's a little video regarding services and such posted on Craig's List. It's a little off the subject, but I found it hard to resist.

How do you meet guys?

How do you meet guys?

Today I was at the grocery store and I noticed a very cute guy. Then I thought, why does it even matter that I see a cute guy at a grocery store because I most likely will never meet him or even know his name. I mean how do you actually meet guys? I meet some when I go out but I really want to mix it up and go for a different type of guy. Any advice?

Well, first you have to get over the idea of rejection. I think fear of rejection is one of the main reasons people don't take charge of situations like these. For example, you didn't meet the guy in the grocery store because neither of you took a step.

So he didn't approach you. You could of approached him by asking his advice on what to make for dinner that night. That would have allowed you to feel him out to see if he seemed interested in you. If so, you could have offered to make dinner for him sometime. So what if you can't cook. There's a great take out place in every neighborhood.

The next time you're at a grocery store, football game, bookstore and any place else, try approaching a hot guy if he doesn't approach you first and just see what happens. Make flirting fun. It should be anyway. Good luck!

I hope I've helped.

Very complicated relationship situation.

Very complicated relationship situation.

Ok, its a little embarrassing to be talking about this especially on the net , but I honestly am lost. Her name is Lola. We've been best friends for 5 years, one and a half of those years we dated. Lost our virginity to each other ... and so on. We broke up about 1 year ago. And we remain good friends. While we were broken up I tried the typical guy thing to do to try and get over her.. I slept around. Immature.. I know. I have been all over the world working, I've met alot of women, I find myself to be a pretty attractive guy. But none compares to the kind of intensity I've shared with this woman. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. I've never been some comfortable with a woman in my life. I would give anything to get her back. But I don't want to ruin the friendship we have, I would rather her be in my life as a friend than not at all. She is dating some guy who's been lying to her all the time. At this point I just want her to be happy. I would love to not love her anymore, but I've tried.. and I cant. She is still the one I think about all the time. Any advice would be appreciated. Should i just not talk to her anymore , or tell her how I feel about her?

First of all, don't worry about expressing your feelings on the internet. With the modern era of online dating and internet based social groups, you're just keeping up with the times.

I don't think removing her from your life is an option for you. You love her and respect the friendship that you have with her, so I'm sure you would regret not having her in your life. However, I think telling her how you feel while she's seeing someone else might be a bad move. If her boyfriend is constantly lying to her, it won't last.

Continue being friends with her, and explain to her how you feel when she's out of her relationship. Chances are she might feel the same way. If not, at least you can live without the regret of never telling her, and will still have a solid friendship.

I hope I've helped.

I don't know what to do about my boyfriend?

I don't know what to do about my boyfriend?

Okay, so he recently got arrested outside of my house, it had nothing to do with me, he was just in the wrong place at the wrong time and was in jail for a day or two and now says he doesnt want to talk to me and he can't legally talk to me because he was arrested at my house. We have a dog together, and he came over today just to get the dog, I then asked him what was going on and he just said he didnt want to talk to me. My sister then talked to him and he said he just needed time to think and that it was hard for him to talk to me. there is this girl that has liked him for a long time now, and he told her he was going to her house to take pictures with her today. If things are so hard why is he talking to this girl and not me?

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it seems that he doesn't want to be with you any more, and is using this to get out of the relationship. Let him go. If he really cares about you, he'll come around. If not, then at least you haven't wasted anymore time on him.

I hope I've helped.

How should you act towards a guy on a 2nd date?

How should you act towards a guy on a 2nd date?

If you were being yourself on the first date, and you both enjoyed each other's company enough to go on a second, then it's obvious he likes you. Continue to be yourself. The second date is still about having a good time. So don't take the date too serious, and avoid heavy topics such as politics, religion, sex and marriage. Remember, it's just the second date and have a good time. Good luck!

I hope I've helped.

What is a one night stand ?

What is a one night stand ?

What's a one night stand to you because I know some people say its one thing, and then other people say something different about it.

A one night stand is when you meet someone and hook up with them for casual sex. It's called a one night stand because you generally have sex with them the day you meet them, and you don't communicate or spend any time with them after that. If you're interested in a one night stand, be sure to wrap it up and be safe. You wouldn't want any itchy reminders of your one night affair the next day.

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How to Break Up With Someone

We've all heard the term, "Breaking up is hard to do." The problem is that sometimes people make it harder than it has to be. Accept that conflict is apart of life. You can't get away from it, but you can make it easier to deal with by being direct and honest.

I've attached a video below that has great pointers on breakups. But, I'd like to include and elaborate on some things not mentioned in the video. Plan on breaking up face to face. Don't even think about text messaging. Remember how Carrie felt on Sex in the City when she was dumped with a post it note? That was just rude.

Be prepared to give a reason to why you want to break up. That doesn't mean list everything that you didn't like about them. But be honest, and keep it simple. And, be clear about the break up. Don't say that you need time off, if you want a permanent break up.

Consider how hurt the person may be and leave them alone once you've made the breakup. You lingering around will just make it tougher on them, and possibly lead to a fight. The last thing you want is to be attacked and have to call the cops. You don't want to go there, you just don't. Good luck!

I hope I've helped.

Is Chivalry Dead?

Is Chivalry Dead?

Some say that chivalry died with the women's equal rights movement. I've heard men say that they are confused about what to do most of the time. If they don't open the door for a woman, there's a problem. And if they do open the door, they're at risk for dealing with a feminist shouting, "I don't need you to open my door. I can do it myself." Then they are those men that just don't have a clue in the first place.

In my opinion, chivalry in America is in a coma. It's not quite dead, but very hard to find. When you meet a new guy, find a subtle way of explaining to him that you like gentlemen that open doors, bring flowers and such. If he doesn't get it, move on because chivalry is definitely dead in him. Good luck!

I hope I've helped.

I thought I would add this video to take you into the weekend. I hope you enjoy it!

What kind of problems can be involved in verbal and physical abuse?

I'm a little confused with this one. I'm not sure if you're wanting signs of an abusive relationship, or the possible outcomes. I'll go with the latter. There are numerous problems that can be involved in both verbal and phsyical relationships: stress, emotional, mental and physical damage. The list can go on. These type of relationships strain relationships with family and friends because they usually know, and suffer watching the victim deal with the abuse. And not to mention, the ultimate "problem" resulting in death of either the abused, or abuser. If you or anyone you know is dealing with abuse, please contact 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), or visit http://www.ndvh.org/.

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How to Give a Hot Massage

Hey guys! In case you didn't know it, it's getting cold outside. Okay, everyone knew it. I'm just now coming out of denial. With colder weather around, many people will be looking for things to do inside. If you have a date, why not offer a massage? Create a relaxing atmosphere of mood music, candles and a little aromatherapy (scented candles, incense and/or oil). Speaking of, make sure you have your massage oil handy as well. And for those that aren't so gifted with the hands, check out the video below. It's a massage lesson just for you. Enjoy and good luck!

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10 Things Never to Say to a Guy

Let me know what you think! Do you agree or disagree?

Am I reading too much into this?

Am I reading too much into this?

Met a guy a couple months ago in a bar. He and his friends were in town for work. We all started hanging out. I told him I was interested in him, he stopped talking to me. He had a girl he was kind of seeing, flew her out to visit, then they got in a fight and then he took me on a date after she left and we all started hanging out again. All the guys were talking about how cool their hometown was (Vegas) and kept saying I should come visit. When they left, I text the guy and told him I was looking into plane tickets. He totally ignored me for a few weeks. I could tell he and the girl were still hanging out.

Then we started talking again and I told him I was coming out to visit after all. He said I could stay with him at his house if I wanted and he'd show me around. From his facebook, I can tell he and this girl are hanging out a lot again. She says stuff like, thanks for making me dinner last night! and I had fun yesterday, stuff like that.

Is he just being friendly or is he trying to start something with me? He's been nice and he's letting me stay at his house so i can't tell if he's just being nice, he's into me, he's getting back with his girl, or what. (I'm in Illinois, he's in vegas) And I don't know why he talks to me on and off like that. I am afraid now I read too much into the guys telling me to come visit.

Yes, you're reading too much into the situation. People say things like that all the time. I think you should go to Vegas too. But, not necessarily for this guy. I'm sure he's thinking of the distance between Vegas and Illinois. So it sounds like he's just trying to have fun, which is fine if that's what you want as well. But, don't expect anything serious with him. He's already tied up. It's obvious that he's trying to make something work with his Vegas baby. Have fun while you're there, and get the hell out of town. Good luck!

I hope I've helped.