Boyfriend refuses to consider marriage...What to do?

Boyfriend refuses to consider marriage.. What to do?

I am 26 and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years. Two years ago he asked me to marry him but six months later retracted the proposal and said it was offered "in the heat of the moment." This comment was made after I pressed about a ring.

So jump to now. I made a large move for him and we have been living together for three years. We even have a dog together. Tonight I cried at the sight of a wedding on television, I don't know what came over me-I just began to get emotional. My boyfriend asked why and I explained I wanted to be that girl in a pretty white dress so bad I did not understand why I couldn't be.

My boyfriend said he just doesn't want to get married. Ever. He believes our relationship will be strained if we do. His other argument is "Why do we have do to what everyone else does?" I don't know what to say to these arguments. I expressed that it is a strong commitment we make to each other and I want it so much.. Tonight he just got angry. yelled. And stormed off.

I don't know what to do. I want to be with him, but I also what my day in a white dress. Any advice? I don't want to debate the pros and cons of marriage. Or maybe I need to? I don't know.

I'm just lost now..


You can't force others to do something that they don't want to do. When deciding to spend your life with someone, you have to make sure that your goals, dreams and beliefs lineup. You must want the same things. If you want marriage and he doesn't, that already tells you that your goals and believes don't line up.

And as a side note, there's a possibility that his beliefs about marriage may be a scapegoat for him to keep the door open in case something better comes along.

You can either let go of the idea of being married to be with him, or you can move on to find someone that does want to get married. Only you can decide which one is more important to you.

Good luck. I hope I've helped.

Sexless Marriage or Relationship?

Sexless Marriage or Relationship?

Do you believe there could be such a thing? I personally believe this is a contradiction in terms.

I think there is a possibility of a sexless relationship, however, I think the actually of it being in a successful relationship is few and far between.

While couples can happily go for periods of time without sex, in my opinion, sex within a relationship represents the health of the that relationship. Couples that frequently engage in sex, are usually more appreciative of each other, and are committed to maintaining the dating element.

Even as couples grow mature together, couples that are still deeply in love are still frisky and affectionate, and sometimes still sexually active with each other.

So, while sex is not everything in a relationship, it can definitely symbolize the health of a relationship.

I hope I've helped.

My Dating Status

During the interim, (despite my, "I'm only dating myself right now, " policy) I discovered several dating options. It turns out that when you decide to stop dating, everyone wants to date you. Despite my better judgement, I actually entertained a few of my options. And after a long and thorough process of elimination, I've ended up with a boyfriend and a sugar daddy.

I look foward to blogging updates about them. They've kept me pretty amused. And FYI, the guy above is neither the boyfriend or the sugar daddy. But, they make me smile just like that.

I hope I've helped.